I would save things for special occasions and not wear some things because they might get dirty. It took me a while to realise every day is a special occasion. I might be dead tomorrow. So I'm dressing in what I feel like dressing in and what I feel good dressing in.
It's impossible for us to get someone to be there alone, especially if you feel nobody is there already. So that's why we too have 'tantrums', and we all deserve to have them answered.